Friendships have many ideals – and they often fail faster than partnerships. From a certain year of life, the number of friends also decreases.
A friend, a good friend, is that the most beautiful thing in the world? This is true, because friendships not only make you happier and healthier, but they are often more resilient today than they were before. There is still room for improvement.
Why are friendships so important?
There are two weak points in life: loneliness and insecurity. People don’t just need a partnership, they need a social village. Especially in times of crisis, you need recognition and feedback from friends. We live in a time when the importance of friendships is increasing year by year. Because we want relationships that are both reliable and freely chosen.
How many really good friends does a person have?
When it happens: three. We also have a dozen average friendships. These are the people you invite for a birthday and who know a little more about you. Everything else is mostly acquaintances with some kind of intimacy like neighbors or coworkers.
There is a fundamental phenomenon that the number of friendships decreases continuously from the age of 23. Researchers assume that you lose a friend every ten years and don’t gain a new one. In the early years of school, education, or university, you meet a lot of people who are not yet engaged and who are looking for friends. The older you get, the more entrenched you are – people in partnership or with friends. It becomes more difficult to win over others there. But the older you get, the better the quality of friendships, as you gain knowledge about human nature, tolerance, and humor.
How do friendships fail?
In Germany, there is a big difference in investments in love and friendship. Friendships are still just love’s little sister, less time and imagination are reserved for them. As soon as there are conflicts, many are lost. Only 70% of friends talk about their partnership, only 50% about sex, and only 30% about money. And the biggest problem with friendships is boredom.
Can men and women just be friends?
A friendship between men and women works if one of the three conditions is met: it is in a strong bond and erotically fulfilled. She is not his type or a woman who is comrade in appearance and demeanor. It is also possible if men are able to establish intensive conversations. In most other cases, men will still try to stay until breakfast.
What sets today’s friendships apart from before?
Friendship was once high in the clouds. Today, they are approached more concretely and openly. Many people wonder: would this person be there for me if I was sick? And good friends today dare to ask personal questions such as: Are you really happy? The Germans were much more careful 30 years ago.